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  • Losing

    How do you feel? Are you so mad with yourself? Do you want to quit playing for a while? Are you ashamed?

    Or are jyou invigorated to do better? Study harder?

    How does losing make you feel? Honest.



    Skippy

  • #2
    For me, it mostly depends on the circumstances of the loss, and also how much I've been losing lately.

    For instance, when I hit my slump in 2010-2011, I started losing more often against the same opponents I used to be able to beat, at least sometimes, and it went on for a year or so, with my USCF rating dropping nearly 200 points. That was discouraging enough that I got burnt out, or perhaps I was already burnt out from playing too often, and that's what caused the slump. Either way, it was discouraging enough that I eventually quit serious chess altogether, and hardly played at all for the next 4 years after that.

    But now I'm back in full force, and yesterday, I played my first USCF tourney in a couple of years. I lost 2 out of 3 games, but they were higher rated opponents, and I feel like I gave them all a good, tough game, so I'm actually happy with my performance, despite the losses. I enjoyed playing those games, and they provided good study material for me to continue improving.

    If I'd just made stupid blunders when I had plenty of time and should have known better, then I'd be mad at myself, which has happened in some of my practice games recently, but not in my tourney games yesterday. So my blunder checking is improving, and I'm happy about that. I'm still blundering, but now my blunders are deeper and less obvious, so I'm not upset about them.

    "Don't be afraid of ghosts! Always play the moves you want to play unless you see a genuine tactical drawback." --Grandmaster Neil McDonald

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    • #3
      It's not so much losing as it is struggling, and failing, to draw in a 40/2 SD/1 game for 65 moves that's awful.

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      • #4
        Originally posted by skippy View Post
        How do you feel? Are you so mad with yourself? Do you want to quit playing for a while? Are you ashamed?

        Or are jyou invigorated to do better? Study harder?

        How does losing make you feel? Honest.



        Skippy

        It makes studying chess a bit easier because a loss means there is a hole in my game and it gives me exactly what I need to fix.

        I see improvement in chess as eliminating weaknesses, not finding new moves.

        Active Library (updated 07/11/15)
        *I found I needed a change in study material as what I felt there was a difference in 'just studying chess' and 'studying chess for tournament play'.

        The King In Jeopardy
        Perfect Your Chess
        Sharpen your Tactics
        The Middlegame, Book I
        ICC Tactical Trainer bot


        "It's not the book. It's what you can understand and learn from it."

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        • #5
          I’m closer to what Fromper says. If I’m losing a ton for a few days and lose another one, I can get genuinely upset. At that point, I’ll usually leave the game alone for a while and come back.

          But as a whole, of course losing doesn’t make anyone happy, but I’m pretty easy-going and take my losses well. does a loss specifically mean I have to study more? nope. It could mean I wasn’t concentrating, didn’t feel well, overlooked something that was rather tough to see, hadn’t been sleeping right, slept too much, etcetera. Of course, one can never get TOO much study but still, a loss doesn’t necessarily mean you aren’t booked up enough.
          Alexander Alekhine is my chess hero.

          An eerie chess short story: The Empty Chair

          My newest chess story: Gamble: A Supernatural Chess Tale

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Octal View Post
            It's not so much losing as it is struggling, and failing, to draw in a 40/2 SD/1 game for 65 moves that's awful.
            At least you didn't flag in the first time control like I did in a 30/90+SD/1. Twice.

            Active Library (updated 07/11/15)
            *I found I needed a change in study material as what I felt there was a difference in 'just studying chess' and 'studying chess for tournament play'.

            The King In Jeopardy
            Perfect Your Chess
            Sharpen your Tactics
            The Middlegame, Book I
            ICC Tactical Trainer bot


            "It's not the book. It's what you can understand and learn from it."

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            • #7
              I once lost 10 CFC rated games in a row over the course of two tournaments. I debated whether I should play in a London tournament or stay home and lick my wounds. I decided to get back on that horse and was paired with a master in the first round and won and went on to win the tournament. Eventually Caissa forgives you for abandoning her and I started winning again.

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